Practical tips for parents
Tune in to education; take for new school course as a further means of moral development of your child; you are the main child carer.
The purpose of the new course was aimed at creation of conditions for spiritual and moral development of the student. Student education in the school will be carried out in lessons (by means of educational content, through the dialogues of teacher and student, students with each other), creative activities (preparing learners for the final creative tasks), in extracurricular activities (the celebration on the eve of national unity Day). In lessons teachers will talk to the child about morality, but if the parents do not show interest in these issues, do not define for the child the parent’s moral position, all taught in school will not have for him a special significance.
New, moral-oriented course opens to parents, other adults additional opportunities for strengthening and development of relations with the child. In younger adolescence, when the child first in an adult begins to look at the world around us and to appreciate our place in it, he is especially in need of spiritual connection with adults, native to it by the individual.
The basic meaning of confidential communication of adolescents with adults in receipt of certain information. The main thing is to find understanding, sympathy, help that they care about what is experienced by them as the most significant. The younger teenager awakens a sense of maturity. He begins to see himself in the world of adults. He experiences a need to evaluate this world, to accept adulthood as a value, comprehend and assign values adult life. Dialogues adult and child about the true values of adult life are of great importance for the teenager.
Talk with your child about what they learned in the classroom. A good way of raising a child is a dialogue between parents and children about spirituality and morality.
Today’s parents have little to say to their children. On average a mother talking to a child about 11 minutes a day, the father — less. Parents provide family, solve production and problems at home, tired after work. So. But there is another reason that hinder verbal communication between children and parents, is not sufficiently General, however, little content for direct personal communication. The conversation between parents and children takes a few minutes a day, but they spend together watching TV for several hours. This is also communication, but indirectly, dumb.
New training course to significantly extend the content of verbal communication between parents, other adults and children thanks to its moral oriented nature. Adults outside of school is difficult to communicate with children on topics solve math problems or the correct execution of the exercises in physical education classes. But each adult has unique experience of life, their own life history, knowledge of good and evil. Moral lessons of life, people and humanity constitute the main content of a new subject.
Will take time to have a child. Weekend read completed during the week of lessons, two of them. You will surely have something to add to their content. Ask the child some questions. Let him speak, speaks, reveals itself in matters of spirituality and morality. Let him see that it is important for you. Speak with you and him about life, about people, about relationships between people. Speak as much as possible.
Deep, permanent psychological contact with a child is a universal requirement for education, which is in the same degree can be recommended to all parents. It is the feeling and experience of contact with parents gives children the opportunity to feel and understand parental love, affection and care. For the younger teenager is also a way to feel like an adult in communication with significant adults on adult themes, especially if such communication is not edifying, and trust, dialog. The dialogue is a game of two intelligent, sympathetic configured to each other people. Play with your a smart kid, and not lecture him.
The most essential characteristic of dialogical raising communication is to establish the equality of position of the child and the adult. To achieve this in everyday family dealing with a difficult child. Usually spontaneous position adult position “over” the child. An adult has the power, experience, independence — the child is physically weak, inexperienced, Visim, affected by the negative effects. But parents need to constantly strive to ensure that the child played an active role in the process of education. We are accustomed to in their educational efforts be guided by common sense, once and for all found methods. But times have changed, our lives had changed, must change ourselves.
Equality of position in the dialogue is achieved in the case if parents try to see the world in its various forms, through the eyes of their children. Contact with the child as the highest manifestation of love for him should be based on an ongoing, relentless desire to know the uniqueness of his individuality. Attempt to stand on the position of the child does not mean condoning or excuse immoral behavior. But to errors and misconceptions children should be treated with respect and understanding. To convince them not authoritarianism, and authority, without degrading their dignity and not turning to proven, but completely ineffective formulas today: “What you can understand?”, “I’ve lived my life and better than you know.” Such methods of education to kill a child’s desire to cooperate, encourage today’s children to rebellion, emotional obstruct the channel of interaction and communication with adults.
Remember that the issues covered by the course “fundamentals of religious cultures and secular ethics” require special delicacy in the process of discussion. We must be very careful not to destroy the atmosphere of trust and openness to each other. Avoid platitudes and commonplaces of stamps, they will cause distrust in the child and will make the formal communication. Our opinions, like our word must be sincere, tested by our own life and confirmed by the experience of others.
Get introduced to contents of the textbooks in other modules. Then you will be able to engage in dialogue with the child not only as a parent, significant for him by an adult, who has great experience, but also as a carrier of various knowledge, worldviews. Such dialogue was very productive, but it requires the parent training. Not spare time and energy for your child, learn together with him.