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Independence preschool children

How to raise the autonomy of the child: a Handbook for parents of preschoolers

Good afternoon dear readers and visitors of the site “Family and childhood”. The autonomy of the child is the main character trait that promotes rapid adaptation in any life conditions. Independent children have good education and skills to “adult” life.

Unfortunately, many parents believe that the development of independence in children always strikes the face of danger. How can you instill this skill, if the “threshold” at home, the child is constantly exposed to risky situations? Easily, most importantly, competent to follow the instructions!

A dip in our childhood, you may recall that almost all less hypochondriac moms, dads, grandparents safely allow their children to pre-school age to walk in the yard without an adult. And sometimes even sent bread to the nearest store.

With this attitude to education, the children knew the limits of freedom and responsibility for their actions. Of course, the time was not as hostile as it is now, when the development of self-reliance have to use all new ways.

At the beginning of this “journey” the most important thing for parents is to understand that the autonomy of the child is always accompanied by freedom of choice and independence. It’s not easy! Not every parent will be able without fear to allow the child to make her decision. This is for many reasons, for example: it can be mistaken for lack of experience and knowledge in this matter.

Here you and help sound approach, proving the preschooler that his entire independence based on clear boundaries and rules. Freedom of choice has its own laws!

If you are still unsure, then think about what the children without the rights to their mistakes often grow infantile, indecisive and anxious. They are afraid to make any step that requires responsibility.

How not to develop independence in the child.

Nurturing independence in children is based only on one important element: parental controls must be reduced to a minimum level so that the child to receive life experience was not able to get into a risky and dangerous situation.

Desire, “I’ll do it myself” is a natural need that lives in every child and experiencing obstacles in the form of adults who are afraid that their “mentee” can not cope with the task. Here are the most popular mistakes these adult:

It’s faster.

It is better to do it yourself than to wait for the slow kid. While he was there turned inside the pants, will review the drawings on fabric or stained. Easier and faster if adult will be accepted for the desired process.

However, our goal is to promote the independence that requires patience granite. Let the kid himself understands his job, and you do not disturb it and don’t push.

Security is paramount.

A small child danger lurks everywhere, even in his room. He may stumble on the threshold, bump on the corner of the countertop, to swallow a small object and many the like.

In order to avoid such, you need to consider and eliminate all risky nuances. It will not hurt and preventive talk about cautious behavior. Explain to him that the iron can burn, and a needle – prick.


Very often parents try to protect the child from difficulties and errors. They feel sorry for their baby. And here is the first step to immaturity! Children at any age have to deal with possible problems and to analyze the obtained result.

Preschooler can help my mother in cleaning the house (clean up toys, hang up their things) and strictly follow the family laws, for example, to go to bed right after the evening rituals (washing, dressing, brushing teeth). But what stands out the most to each child’s age has individual levels of development.

Independence of a child from 1 year to 3 years.

A newborn baby is completely dependent on their parents, but over time it changes. Becoming older, he tries to take the first independent steps, to prevent which is absolutely contraindicated.

According to statistics, children from the age of three, should be able to dress, undress, eat, wash up and “go” on the potty. To make this element of the game, they can accompany nursery rhymes, rhymes, short rhymes and songs.

Self-service, together with the right to choose is the ideal Foundation for the development of autonomy. Allow children to focus on my opinion. If he wants to wear that red blouse, let bears. If he wants to paint a squirrel in green, not let. Along with the independence he develop the sense of taste.

Independence of a child 3-4 years.

This age period is called the younger pre-school age, when a child consciously to strive for their independence. Under the action competent education he has some skills in self-service and increasingly tries to copy their parents ‘ lives. His vocabulary is constantly featured the phrase: “I myself.” He doesn’t like, if he offers his help and usually refuses her.

If you notice that your favorite games child mainly focused on adult life (daughter to babysit a doll, and my son is repairing a machine), then it’s time to expand the boundaries of autonomy. This can be done in the form of the game: swimming “sea king,” knead “magic dough”, my “deck” and many the like. Awaken a young child safely and be creative! And never let him if he wants to help.

Independence of a child 5-6 years.

The autonomy of children of senior preschool age includes not only the decision, but the responsibility. Give your child tasks such that they touch not only his personality, but also the whole family: watering houseplants, regular wiping of dust, laying the dinner table. The main thing here is understanding that it is entirely his responsibility that need to be implemented regularly without reminders.

Don’t interfere, if he hasn’t watered the flowers or not wipe the furniture from dust. Let them see the result of their inaction and realize that it is his fault. But you only hint what happened.

It is clear that residents of large cities can’t let their child walk without an adult. But you can create the appearance of a certain. During the walk are in sufficient proximity to the baby, but not next to him. Let him play on the Playground, while you just sit on the nearest bench. Walk with him to the store and let yourself to pay for the bread. If finances allow, ask him to choose something tasty and to pay for it.

The development of independence should come naturally, but you can only push the kid to this. Create it with the necessary conditions, mark the boundaries and create clear rules to follow it unquestioningly.

And finally, watch the video “How and when to teach them independence in the child?” The program “mother’s school”.